What to Wear When You Know You’re Getting Engaged

Six years ago Joe asked me to marry him! We had been dating for awhile, had discussed wanting to get married, and he even had me pick out a ring. I knew the engagement was coming eventually, but he had told me the ring was taking a long time and I assumed we’d be getting engaged sometime at the end of summer. So although I knew it was coming, I was completely caught off guard when he asked me to marry him in May! To prove I was surprised you can see the photo where I had blue nail polish on at the end of this post. I like the color but it’s not something I’d choose if I knew I was getting engaged. 😉

I love when engagements are surprises, but if you have a feeling you’re getting engaged and need to pick out an outfit, I’ve got you covered.

Consider the venue:
Do you know where you’re getting engaged at? Try to dress with that in mind so you are not extremely under or over dressed for the occasion. You probably won’t be wearing a formal gown to a beach, jeans to a fancy restaurant, etc. You’ll also want to bring a few items in case of emergencies, like a tide-to-go pen, safety pens, oil-blotting facial tissue, etc.

Comfort and style:
I’m always happier when I’m comfortable, so while I don’t suggest getting engaged in sweat pants, you might not want to be breaking in your new shoes that day. We have a tendency to want to wear what we have that’s brand new, but don’t sacrifice style for comfort when you can have both. Wearing what you feel best in is key, and that should be something you’ve worn before.

Go simple and classic:
This is a moment you’ll look back on for a long time, so if you happen to know you’re getting engaged, I’d wear something that photographs well that you love. I’d stay away from something really trendy that will look completely dated in a few years, or something with a busy pattern that might not photograph well.

Don’t sweat the small stuff:
This is a special moment for the two of you, so if your hair isn’t perfect, your outfit gets ruined somehow, or something else doesn’t go the way you wanted it to, that is completely O.K. Everyone’s engagement story is different and those details make yours unique.

Have you been engaged? What were you wearing for that moment?

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Best Legging Pants

Just as a disclaimer – this is NOT a sponsored post, in fact, I really hate dealing with this company and they have horrible exchange policies so be mindful of that. I wouldn’t’ have done a blog post on this if I didn’t like the pants so much!

Uniqlo Legging Pant

I’ve always had a hard time with finding great fitting pants. I want something that I can tuck into boots easily, but most leggings are too tight and look like leggings. I’m not at the point where I’m OK wearing straight up leggings as pants. It has to have some detail to make them look like real pants. 🙂 Behold, these legging pants are much nicer than any legging or “jegging” I have ever met!

Jackie Greaney told me about these pants when I was pregnant because they make a maternity version of them and she’s worn the regular version and told me to try it. I ended up getting a white pair and loved them during my pregnancy so much so that I wanted to try the regular legging pant version afterwards. I got the white pair and the dark denim and love them both. They are a thicker material than most leggings, and while they have an elastic waist, it’s not shown that way. It has a button, belt holes, etc., all without the zipper. They are super comfortable and flattering. I got them two weeks ago and have worn each pair 3x’s each.

For sizing, I would go one size up just to be safe since they’re return policy isn’t generous. I am usually a small but they felt a tad tight so I went up to a medium and they are perfect. They go on sale a lot so if you aren’t in any rush you could wait for them to be $20 each, but even at $29 they are a great deal.

If you are like me and struggle with finding pants that look fitted, maybe give these a try. Check out all the variety of legging pants and let me know what you think!

What to Wear When You’re Pregnant

This is a post I’ve wanted to do for awhile and the main reason behind it is my own experience with the frustrations of dressing while you’re pregnant. When I first started to need maternity clothes (end of first trimester), I got extremely discouraged by the lack of styles available and also information I could find online on how to dress. Like many other women, honing my personal style isn’t just about looking great but about feeling great. Pregnancy attire can take a lot of that away from you, especially if your style isn’t quite maternity friendly (like having an entire closet of button down shirts that you like to tuck into pants…). I searched high and low for tips and tricks and came up short. It wasn’t until I found a mom whose style I liked and looked at her pregnancy outfits that I found some encouragement and inspiration that I can keep my personal style during the pregnancy with just a little bit of effort.

Goals:

  • Incorporate your regular wardrobe as long as possible.
  • Ability to keep your personal style and feel “put together”.
  • Strategically purchase items that will stretch your current wardrobe and save you money.

Go-To Retailers

  • Old Navy
  • Gap
  • Target
  • Uniqlo

A quick note on retailers: very FEW brands do maternity and do it well, and less places are carrying maternity in-store for you to try on. I had good luck shopping the sales at Old Navy and Gap, getting basics at Target (t-shirts, etc), and then maternity leggings at Uniqlo. It’s key to get things that you’ll wear over and over again, and maybe only an item or two for a special occasion. I bought a dress for Christmas and then one for my baby shower, but I only wore those items once. I avoided maternity only stores because they tended to be pricey and I’d rather spend my money on clothes I can wear after the baby.

Bottoms

Bottom pieces are going to be the first things you notice you need “maternity” versions of. I definitely wore leggings throughout my pregnancy more than any other time in my life, but it really felt nice to have “real” pants as options. There are three main types of pants – side panel, demi, and over the belly. I found all three of these from the Gap website and ordered one of each to see what I liked and returned the rest. I found the demi to be most comfortable for me.

  • Over the belly pants and leggings look really strange, but they are great for the end of the second trimester and the whole third trimester. I found they didn’t fit as well for me before that.
  • I also bought non-maternity leggings a size or two bigger than normal and was able to wear them almost right up to the end.
  • I avoided skirts completely once my “bump” appeared because I thought it looked unflattering where the top of the skirt hit.

Dresses

Dresses are fantastic for warm weather pregnancies, and although I was pregnant in mostly the winter I did buy a few that I wore quite a bit. I definitely didn’t wear dresses as much as a summer pregnancy would because most cold days you are looking to wear pants.

  • Buy ones that can be styled a few ways. I got a plain navy dress and I wore it a lot because it could be dressed up and down for different occasions (pictured below on the left).
  • Empire waist dresses work great, even if they aren’t maternity. The photo above was one of my favorite dresses that had a forgiving waist that allowed me to wear it 6 months pregnant to a wedding. I was so happy it fit!
  • If you’re looking to accentuate your “bump”, a belt can turn your dress into a nice maternity look.

Tops:

This is very important since it will have to fit over your growing belly for as long as possible. Look for basics that can be layered under other pieces. I bought maternity gray and white t-shirts, as well as maternity gray and white turtlenecks and used them non-stop to layer under other pieces that weren’t maternity. I’m also a big fan of button down shirts and found ones I liked from Old Navy and also larger sizes of Ralph Lauren button downs that I received second hand.

  • If you don’t own them already, purchase a few long cardigans in neutral colors that will go with your wardrobe. I had a navy, gray, and green one that I wore up until the day I gave birth. I can also still wear them after since they just go over the arms and drape around you.
  • I wasn’t into showing off my bump, so I found capes and wraps to be nice for my style and kept me warm in the colder months.
  • I found oversized sweaters at the thrift store that I loved alongside borrowing my husband’s sweaters at the end of my pregnancy.

Outwear:

If you happen to be pregnant during a time where you’ll need to wear outwear, it can be frustrating figuring out how to stay warm when you’ve got a bump to cover. Until later in your pregnancy, you can get away with wearing jackets and being able to zip them up, but a time comes when you won’t be able to. I was pregnant from June – late February so I got the brunt of winter and bought a maternity coat. If you aren’t going to be big during the majority of winter, you can get away with not buying one.

  • I enjoyed wearing vests as a light layer, especially since I don’t zip them up even when I’m not pregnant.
  • I did buy a maternity coat and was glad I did. If I was spending less than a month in the winter being pregnant, I wouldn’t have bought one, but with the timing of mine it was worth it. There were several horrible snow storms that I was so glad I could zip my parka all the way up over the bump.
  • There are maternity coats that have a panel in front that you do without after the pregnancy meaning it turns into a non-maternity coat afterward. I didn’t like how this style looked, and also didn’t need another non-maternity coat. I found my maternity parka inexpensively during Old Navy’s online Black Friday sale.

Shoes:

Summer pregnancies are nicer in this case because you can wear sandals towards the end if your feet swell. I didn’t have swelling in my feet until the last two months, but it was very painful and left me with very little to wear. Thankfully all my boots were a half size larger (I always size up to accommodate thick socks), and my mom is a half size larger and let me borrow a few pairs to get me through the end.

  • Consider getting a pair or two of really comfortable shoes for the end of your pregnancy if you find you can’t fit into any of your current pairs. If you’re looking to save money, just buy inexpensive shoes and add comfortable insoles to them.

Workout Clothes:

If you weren’t working out before your pregnancy, doctors advise you don’t start anything new afterward, however you should be doing some sort of physical activity. I did not enjoy being pregnant, but I had a fairly easy delivery and I credit it to all my time spent in the gym! With that being said, it’s frustrating to not only have to compensate your normal wardrobe but then your workout clothes too. I got VERY lucky because Lucy Activewear got absorbed by The North Face and I was able to pick up maternity workout clothes for a fifth of the price it normally was.

  • If you workout a lot (few times a week), the Bao Bei band is for you! I had a friend recommend it and I LOVED it. I was so worried my abs would split or I’d be putting too much pressure on my body with the added weight of the bump, and this thing is like a sports bra for your belly. It’s not cheap, but it was worth every penny for me. If you don’t workout as often or are doing low impact activity, feel free to skip this!
  • Tops are fairly easy to buy until the third trimester. I would buy looser, larger tops, and only at the end did I pick up a few maternity tops. I bought these at Old Navy and Gap and found most of it during their Christmas sales.
  • Bottoms are a little tougher, but you’ll find your leggings should work for a lot longer than your non-maternity wardrobe. Near the end, only leggings that had a really low band would work other than maternity workout pants. Maternity workout leggings usually come with REALLY high bands that go over the bump and ones that sit right under. I found I liked the ones that went over the bump for support.
  • Shoes weren’t a problem for me, but if your feet are swelling I’d just pick up a cheap pair to get you through the end. My tennis shoes were some of the most comfortable things I’d wear during the whole pregnancy.

My friend Katrina is due in September! She is going to be one stylish pregnant lady!

Other:

Rings: My wedding ring stopped fitting near the end and only recently (4 weeks post partum) does it fit again. I had another ring that was always bigger on me that I’d wear, but also had a silicone ring that I normally wear to the gym that I would wear as well. Feel free to skip a ring if you’d like, or wear it around your neck. Never force a ring that doesn’t fit!

Swim: I bought a maternity swimsuit during an Old Navy holiday sale for $10 and I’m glad I did. I had access to an indoor pool year round at my gym and used it a few times both for leisure and aqua classes. I couldn’t believe how nice it felt to swim while pregnant – you feel like your old self again! Although I only wore it a few times, I thought it was worth it since I didn’t pay a lot and it felt so nice to take pressure off my joints during the end.

Overall tips:

  • Stay optimistic! You’ll get discouraged from time to time being able to wear less of your closet but don’t give up. Looking “put-together” when you don’t feel like it will lift your spirits and make you feel like your old self.
  • Get creative with wearing items a few ways. I utilized Pinterest a lot to search an item and see how many different ways it could be styled.
  • Buy items you’ll wear a lot, with a few exceptions (special events).
  • Buy second hand, or find a friend who had been pregnant that can loan you a few things. You’ll be surprised how many women are willing to share their maternity clothes with you. I was very fortunate to have a few friends and family members who loaned me items that got me through my pregnancy!

Virginia’s Nursery

Virginia’s nursery was a process, but I found a few photos on Pinterest that I liked and combined them into this. I knew I wanted to do mostly neutrals with a feminine powder blue as an accent color. I’m really happy with how it turned out! I know I’ll look back at these photos with amazement on how clean and organized things were. 😀

diaper bag c/o barrington gifts (post coming soon)

Winter Olympics Style

The Winter Olympics start this weekend and my favorite part is Team USA ‘s opening and closing ceremony outfits designed by Ralph Lauren. I especially think the winter ones are always so great and leave me wanting everything in the collection. You can buy the same items from the Ralph Lauren website, but they’re pretty pricey and usually have the year on it. It’s no secret I love wearing the American flag, so I rounded up some of my favorite items below that have the Winter Olympics feel to it with the flexibility to wear it in the future.

Noteworthy – I’m a big fan of the RL Flag sweater (I have it in cream and navy), but they tend to be a lot of money on the website for adult sizes. I have seen them at the outlet for less, and also find the boy sizes to be a nice alternative. A medium in boys would fit a women’s XS, a large would fit a women’s small, and a XL would fit a women’s medium. All of mine are boy’s sizes from the outlet and I’ve never paid more than $40 for one, and one of them was $20! I have shorter arms and torso so it works for me, but I always recommend trying on first.

 

team usa mittens / vineyard vines shep shirt  / RL flag sweater / needlepoint flag hat (highly recommend and can get year round use)

flag beanie / flag pillow / flag tote

flag tote (I have this and love it!) / flag scarf / danner boots / north face stars scarf

 

What is your favorite part of the Winter Olympics?

 

 

Non-Maternity Items I’ve Bought

I haven’t bought many clothes in general since being pregnant, and the majority of clothes I have been purchasing have been maternity staples. Honesty, it’s been sort of nice being in this state where normal clothes don’t fit me because when I do want a non-maternity item, I put more thought into it. Because it’s something I can’t wear right away, I have to really want it in order to purchase it. With that being said, the items below are all non-maternity items, most which cannot be worn until after pregnancy, that fit my standard for a “must have” item for the future.

Tuckernuck Earrings (sold out): Of course I can wear whatever earrings I want while pregnant, but these are so spring/summer that I probably won’t be wearing them until after the baby anyway. I SO badly wanted these earrings when they came out last spring, but couldn’t bite the bullet at $88. I ended up getting them for $17 + free shipping recently during their sale, and cannot wait to wear them when the weather gets warmer.  They’re sold out of the color I got but they still have other colors online.

ROW ONE

Lilly Shift in Multi Sea Salt & Sun: An item I wanted when it first came out was this Lilly Pulitzer dress in this pattern. It reminds me of 1990’s Florida and I really love the fun print! It was marked down to $65 in their latest after party sale and I couldn’t resist. I got a little bigger than my normal Lilly size, so we will see how well it fits once summer comes.

Abercrombie Fair Isle Sweater: This isn’t an item I bought, but asked for from my parents for Christmas. I’m a sucker for fair isle and loved this red version of it. I’m looking forward to wearing it next December!

Vineyard Vines Funnel Neck Shep Shirt: I found this piece on Poshmark with the tags still on it. I wanted to know if the sizing was similar to their other Shep Shirts so I wanted to find the old listing for it on the VV website to read the reviews. What I found was it’s still for sale on their website currently, yet for some reason this lady was selling it on Poshmark, and I ended up paying $35 for it. The reviews all said it ran large, so when it came I tried it on and the XS fits me… at 35 weeks pregnant. They are easy to shrink so I’ll be attempting to shrink it after the baby comes. 🙂 I’m really happy with the style and quality of the item and recommend it to anyone interested in adding a fun piece of Vineyard Vines to their wardrobe!

 

ROW TWO

Talbots Gingham Half Zip: I saw this on IG friend Devon’s story and instantly loved it! I got it for $25, and it looks like it’s still at that price. It’s a really warm fleece and has a cool navy feature on the top and back of the shoulders similar to a shep shirt. It’s an item that can be worn in cold weather when you’re sick of your normal winter clothes and want something “fresh” looking, and I’m hoping it can bridge the gap between winter and spring after the baby comes.

J. Crew Nordic Boots (Sold out): This is another item I asked for from my parents for Christmas. I LOVE these boots and featured them in an earlier post. They are extremely warm and comfortable, and may be the only shoes that are truly pleasant for my feet these days. I’ve been wearing them frequently for a month and they’ve proven to be a little more high maintenance than I’d like. They are not very waterproof so you have to waterproof them yourself. I used an entire can of nubuck leather waterproofing spray (three layers), and they look great, but if I get a little snow on them they seem to dry kind of funny. No permanent markings have been made so far, but I wish they were a little lower maintenance. The look and feel of them make up for the trouble!

Hunter Boots: This is the last item I didn’t personally purchase since it was a Christmas gift from my husband. It’s an item I can wear while pregnant, although I know they will fit much better once I deliver my baby and my feet/leg swelling goes away. It’s a fun addition to my wardrobe!

THIRD ROW

Old Navy Activewear leggings / jacket / leggings: I’m a fitness instructor so I had to purchase a lot of maternity workout items the further I got along, and got really lucky because the brand Lucy is being absorbed into North Face and had all their maternity items on sale for $12-$20. I wasn’t planning on buying any activewear that wasn’t maternity but I couldn’t resist this print Old Navy came out with recently. It’s very rarely you find “preppy” workout clothes and I loved the navy and stripes. They almost remind me of the J. Crew activewear line, but I’ve had good luck with Old Navy workout clothes in the past, but haven’t heard great things about many of the J Crew pieces.

The Best Gym Bag

monogrammed nylon gym bag c/o mark & graham / yoga mat c/o mark & graham / nike training shoe

It can be hard to take fitness gear advice from someone who’s a style blogger, especially when there are so many fantastic fitness bloggers out there. Something I don’t share on here too often is what I do in real life. Besides my day job, I’ve been a fitness instructor for the past 5 years at Life Time. If you haven’t heard of Life Time, it’s incredible and I love and enjoy every single part of my job and the facility itself. Calling it a gym or fitness center does it no justice!  Don’t tell my boss but I’d teach classes for free if that’s what it took. 😉

I’ve always been into working out ever since I realized I hated playing sports but still loved being active. I’ve been apart of some sort of gym / group fitness atmosphere for the past twelve years, and professional the last five, so I know a lot more about health and fitness than your average style blogger. Trust me when I tell you this is the best gym bag I have found to date.

Finding the right gym bag is a personal preference that really depends on how you use it. Some people are OK with a simple tote that they throw things in, while others depend on versatility because they work out often and/or shower at their gym. I fall into the later category and depend on the functionality of my bag to help keep me organized.


  • This bag has a total of EIGHT pockets and compartments – each designated for a different use. The very front of the bag has zippers on the side that once unzipped can hold a yoga mat, and right above the monogram is another compartment that I use for random hair ties and headbands (being without one can ruin a workout for me).
  • One side of the bag has a place for a waterbottle, and the other side has a compartment for shoes. I would never buy a gym bag that didn’t have a compartment for shoes and flip flops! I find it so useful and helps my inner germaphobe feel more at ease to keep it separate.
  • The back of the bag has a huge slim pocket that can hold anything you want easy access to.
  • The inside has three pockets – one larger one that I use to keep my iPad and workout class lessons in. It would also fit a laptop as well. Opposite of that pocket is two smaller compartments – I keep my instructor essentials in there such as a mic belt, windscreens for the mic, & wallet,  as well as extra headphones and socks.
  • The entire interior and exterior are completely wipe-able so it will look brand new for a very long time!

I’ve owned this retired Gaiam bag forever (7+ years), and while I bought other gym bags throughout the years, I always went back to it because of the compartments. I can now say that bag has been replaced and upgraded majorly with this new gym bag. I’ve never felt so organized in my life as this bag checks all of my boxes for my dream gym bag. I couldn’t have design one better myself!

While it may be more money than some are willing to spend on a gym bag, I find that owning the perfect version of something ends up costing you less over time. Settling on a lesser version of something so functional that will end up being replaced anyway costs time, money, and frustration over the years. Buying the right version the first time is worth its weight in gold. Plus, who can resist the navy and monogram?

What bag do you use for the gym? What are your must-haves for a gym bag?

 

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